Live Band, Six Lines from Daisy Jones and The Six

I love playing in a live band, and I love reading live bands

Just finished reading Daisy Jones and The Six, by Taylor Jenkins-Reid. A lovely story about love, heartache, and rock and roll, set in the backdrop of 1970’s Los Angeles, a hotbed of live-music creativity in the 20th century. Here are my six favorite lines from the book that line up with our experience as Songwheels the live-band.

1. Win The Battle Before Its Begun

Win the battle before it’s begun
BiLLY: I stood there in front of that crowd, stone sober, feeling their excitement, knowing “Honeycomb” was heading for the Top 10. And I knew I had those people in the palm of my hand. I knew they wanted to like us. They already liked us. I didn’t have to win them over. I stood on that stage and … we’d already won.

Okay, still with me here, but this sounds like one of my favorite passages from The Art of War.

In these lie the expert’s victory in arms.  Such strategies are not to be divulged beforehand, nor can they be taught before the battle.  Now, the one who has the most tallies in the “temple calculations” before battle will surely be victorious over the one with fewer, let alone the one who has no tallies at all!  From this I conclude that victory and defeat can be foreseen.

Using the temple calculations above, victory and defeat can be foreseen.  The battle has already been determined.  The win/loss outcome is already set.  But there’s a crucial piece missing here, something we must address.  In battle, there is a winner and loser.  Similarly in sporting events, one team defeats the other team, the we count scoreTh at the end of the game, we all go home knowing who won and who lost.  We don’t have this in the arts.  What constitutes a win?

As performers in a live band, we believe that a great show is a win-win situation. We have a great time on stage, and the audience has a great time with us. Billy’s “temple calculations” were complete; his band was strategically positioned to win. What a great feeling…

2. Risk and Confidence Onstage


BILLY: Daisy didn’t actually have confidence. She was always good. Confidence is okay being bad, not okay being good.

We take a ton of risks in a Songwheels live band show. The audience will challenge us to perform unusual material, sometimes completely un-rehearsed. When that happens, the band instinctively trusts each other. We look around the stage for confidence, knowing that even if this is bad, we’ll have a great time and look forward to the next tune. There’s no moment so bad that we can’t fix it! Having that trust in each other allows us to risk the show for a great moment.

Live band, how Songwheels is like Daisy Jones and The Six
Paul and Misha performing in a Songwheels live band show in Kansas City, MO

3. Managing Conflict in live band


On Conflict
WARREN: Some people just don’t threaten each other. And other people threaten everything about each other. Just the way it is.

Onstage chemistry is undeniable. I’ve been in live bands that didn’t gel musically, but we were great at partying as soon as the show was over. I’ve also been in bands that were made up of musical geniuses, and we all hated each other. Finding the right crew of people that balance respect, musicianship, professionalism…it’s not easy. When you’ve got it, hold on to it! We’ve finally found that in our collective of Kansas City musicians, and we love it!

4. Self-Acceptance


On self-acceptance
DAISY: Knowing you’re good can only take you so far. At some point, you need someone else to see it, too. Appreciation from people you admire changes how you see yourself…Everybody wants somebody to hold up the right mirror.

Daisy is a character in perpetual struggle of accepting herself. This line is an example of a broken clock being right, twice a day. I can identify times in my life when I agree with what Daisy is saying here, but I’ve also had times of supreme confidence and personal acceptance. Times when I didn’t need any outside validation. But I find myself asking what is the difference between validation and accountability. Completely disregarding the opinions of others, 100% of the time, certainly sounds like an exciting way to live. But it’s also alienating to those around you. In this passage, Daisy admits, with difficulty, that she desires some validation of certain people. Is this a flaw? Maybe, but it’s certainly human.

Live band, how Songwheels is like Daisy Jones and The Six
Spencer, Kaydee, and Paul perform a Songwheels live band show in Kansas City, MO

5. Difficult Artists

TEDDY: Someone who insists on the perfect conditions to make art isn’t an artist. They’re an asshole.

I embrace professional challenges. While some of them can be annoying, like playing three hours on a keyboard with a broken middle-C, I try to reframe them as opportunities. Having a challenge when I perform keeps me engaged, keeps me alive, and I believe that translates to the audience. Some musicians want to do it the same way, every time, with minimal effort. They believe this puts them in the zone, but it really just frees up their brain to space out and think about other things instead of the show. I’m guilty of that too, and a few audience members have been brave enough to point out when I’m coasting. That’s a signal to me that I’m too comfortable, and I’m not growing.

6. Artistic Expectations in a Live Band


On artistic expectations
DAISY: …I told him I felt like I’d made something that wasn’t exactly what I’d envisioned, but it was maybe good in it’s own right. I said it felt like me but it didn’t sound like me and I had no idea whether it was brilliant or awful or somewhere in between. And Teddy laughed and said I sounded like an artist. I liked that.

2023 is a funny time to create music. With a single computer, or a phone, a trained user can produce a professional-grade, world-class hit-song. As professional musicians in a live band, we know we have these tools, and some of us enjoy being deep in a well of our own creation, writing and performing all of the parts. Sometimes it’s as simple as “drag-and-drop” your drummer into track, other times you can draw a keyboard part without ever touching an instrument. I like that Daisy is discovering how to let go of her personal vision, and accept that her ideas come forth, they pass through the filter of her limits, and through the filter of her collaborators. What comes out on the other side is simply what’s meant to be.

7. Pacing A Live Show

Okay, my 7 favorite lines! lol
On pacing
BILLY: People like it when you make them sad, I think. But people hat it when you leave them sad. Great albums have to be roller coaster that end on top. You gotta leave people with a little bit of hope.

The true pros in a Songwheels live band are constantly aware of pacing. We’re feeling out the audience, keeping an eye on their energy. We always want to be one step ahead, one notch higher. If our energy is lower, we’re failing them. But to Billy’s point, we can still do a sad song with energy, passion, and enthusiasm, and bring the audience with us on a moment. After a moment like that, it’s up to us where we drive the bus next. Most of the time, it’s time to ramp up the energy again, and the roller coaster ride continues.

Workplace Leadership: My Boss Résumé

How hard do I have to smolder to get this done?

Workplace leadership has been a fascination for me since my time at UMKC, studying nonprofit management and innovation. This lovely, fledgling company is expanding, and Alaina will be taking the role of social media manager and booking agent.

To dispel any mysteries and/or awkwardness around my persona as a manager, I’ve prepared the following document for her.

Paul as a boss 

Expressing Appreciation

When I’m making an effort to see to, communicate with you, and find us projects to collaborate on, then I’m expressing my appreciation.  Long periods of time might pass without me expressing my gratitude verbally, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist.  However, I will receive a verbal compliment deeply and remember it forever.  I’m comfortable with high-fives, handshakes, literal pats-on-the-back, and brief casual hugs, but in professional relationships I avoid much physical contact beyond that.

GRUMPY

I’m liable to become frustrated if I feel like I’ve had to repeat myself several times, as I begin to feel my time is being wasted.  Similarly, I’ll get confounded when someone “ghosts” me in the middle of a business relationship.  I’ve had multiple colleagues tell me that my standards are too high and I take work too seriously.  A good way to reassure me is to encourage me to “look from the balcony”, and everything’s going to work out.  :-). Even reminding me not to get too hung up on pushing my workplace leadership agenda…that’s helpful.

Skewed Encouragement

I very much enjoy artists who take risks and find authentic, honest ways to express themselves.  This is an ideal I also try to cultivate in myself.  I have much respect for these people, and I frequently encourage the people who work for me to find ways to express their own identify through their art, or at least find something joyful in what could easily be mundane.  When fellow musicians report to me “this is just a job”, or they prioritize drugs & alcohol, I can get crestfallen quickly.  I sometimes struggle to find a healthy detachment from my music career. At my lowest, I always find solace in my family.  At my highest, I’m collaborating in a healthy, vibrant community of artists, and I’m helping musicians support themselves financially.

Communication and Boundaries

At 42 years old, my communication-ettiequte is both elder-millennial and young gen-x.  I will not text or email negativity, and I prefer to administer feedback and/or criticism in person, usually in private.  If the criticism is especially pointed, I’ll ask for a third party to monitor the conversation.  Sometimes there are fun ideas or dialogues that will flow faster in a zoom-call or phone call, and if a text conversation is becoming too cumbersome for me, I’ll request to port it over to a different method of communication.  I’ll utilize text for brief exchanges of information, and I prefer a response by the end of the day.  I’ll utilize emails for sharing broader information or focused computer work, and I prefer a response from emails within 24 hours.  Show-time is a bad time to try to reach me, unless in an emergency.  I’m not a fan of group-chats and will nonchalantly exit them if the information doesn’t pertain to me.  I want to detach from social media, using my day to focus on health, exercise, and coordinating creative projects and production.

Songwheels

I’m the band-leader for Songwheels, my favorite party-band in Kansas City, and I’m used to being around people with big, quirky personalities. I love them! A band, like or not, can sometimes feel like a workplace, in need of workplace leadership. Being emotionally aware of our quirks and flaws allows us more grace, and the good times can keep rolling.